Excerpt from the Single Black Woman's Guide to Christian Dating - How Do You Know He's 'The One'?:
We've
all met the seemingly perfect man: he opens doors for you and he's polite and
courteous. He has a well-paying job, he's truthful, open and honest. He takes
you out to dinner and doesn't expect anything in return and makes all the right
noises about his interest in being committed. You get along great, you're
thinking about introducing him to your parents and, then, he changes on you! He
goes from calling you five times a day to 'just say hello' to sounding peeved
when you call because he's 'trying to work' (not that he’s changed jobs or
anything, he’s just all of a sudden too busy to want to talk). Or you hit date
five and he doesn’t understand why you’re not giving him any loving. In other words, you meet someone who
initially sounds great, but then he starts sending mixed signals.
So, how can you tell when you've really
picked the right guy?
Read on:
He doesn't overwhelm you with affection right off
the bat.
Yes, we all want to be swept off our feet, but steer far clear of men who want to marry you by Date 2. If he were really so anxious to be married, don't you think he would be by now? Now, I'm not saying that all men are like this, but, most men who start out very intensely burn out very quickly. After all, you don't think you are the only one he's ever been that crazy about, do you? Settle instead for someone who calls, texts or emails you a reasonable number of times. And one who has reasonable expectations of your relationship. Allow your relationship to begin at a slower pace and develop naturally - this will help it to last.
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