Excerpt from the Single Black Woman's Guide to Christian Dating - 'You Attract What You Are':
Okay - here is one of my pet peeves. I will hear a woman say how she’d like to meet a tall, handsome man, with a good job and a good education. And he should love children and get along with his mom and be spiritual and, you know, just fill in the blanks (think: perfect). And I will take a look at her and she is still living with her mom, working at McDonald’s, taking the bus to work and only going to church to catch herself a ‘good’ man. (Not that there’s anything with working at McDonald’s or catching the bus or even living with your mom.) My point is that I always want to turn to this woman and say, What do you have to offer?
Why, oh, why do we think we can attract a ‘perfect’ man when we are so far from it? Why do we never think of the fly in the ointment (which is sure to come) as we detail how tall he should be, what type of school he should have attended and what type of car he be driving. This fantasy description simply begs the question: are you kidding me?
So let me ask you (and maybe you should ask yourself) - What do you have to offer this gorgeous, spiritual man you’d like to come into your life? What kind of car are you driving? Where did you attend school? How is your spirituality? Heck, what’s your credit score like? No, I don’t think you have to be rich, gorgeous or a size 2 to attract a man, but I think we sometimes need to take a good hard look at ourselves before we advertise for this ‘perfect’ one.
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